Discussion is an exchange of knowledge; an argument is an exchange of ignorance.
In this course, you'll learn the 30 things that are stopping your quarrels, debates, disagreements, and conflicts with people from reaching a sound resolution.
We'll explore the critical errors that you make in how you communicate, in your mindset, and in the substance of your disputes. Then, we'll dive into your defensive strategies, your offence, and how you should seek resolutions.
Learning how to handle conflict will make a substantial difference in all areas of your life.
Today is the day to get it right. Have a listen!
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Syllabus
Arguments drain and prevent moving forward. Allowing an issue to be explored and discussed is the way to move forward.
In this course we'll be learning 30 mistakes you should avoid making in an argument in the following areas: 1. Communication 2. Mindset 3. Substance and fact 4. Defensive arguments 5. Offense 6. Resolution
Communication is different than conveying information. In this lesson we'll cover five rules for how to improve your communication and what mistakes you can avoid making!
In this lesson we'll explore a few more mistakes you shouldn't make in an argument and aspects to be aware of: • Your mindset • How you charecterize your opponent • Avoiding escalation
In arguments, substance matters. There's a key difference between the way you approach an argument and what you're saying. We'll be learning about four ways to make sure your substance matters.
Self defense is nature's oldest mechanism, in an argument you need to be aware of it in a few ways: • Don't weaponize your grace. If you've done something good in the past, don't use it as leverage later. • Take care of your temper. Anger is a legitimate emotion but just because you feel it doesn't mean that others have to deal with it. • Storming out is a bad look. • When you're wrong, just admit it and move on.
When you're arguing, you're trying to make your point. However there are still mistakes you shouldn't make: Don't be offensive. • There's a difference between playing offense and being offensive. As Abraham Lincoln said: "we should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it". • Exhausting someone else in an argument isn't the same as winning. • Speech can be sticky - sometimes what you say can stick around in people's minds for years, so be very careful with what you say. • Let people speak: don't interrupt other people and let them make their points. This way you'll hear them and they'll give you the same due.
Conflict resolution is all about how you make people feel. It's not about attacking, it's about empathizing. Some points to keep in mind: • The other person doesn't need to loose in order for you to win. • Inject levity: Just because you're arguing doesn't mean you have to be serious all the time. Levity can really help. • Let the other side drain their venting away, and don't go to bed angry if you can avoid it. Life is too short for this. • Perfection is an illusion. None of us are perfect, we're all working on something in ourselves at any given time. So cut others some slack.